Veteran's Funerals Part 3 of 3

Many civilians ask me, “What do we do as a civilian while the military do their thing at a military funeral?”  Here are simple, easy to follow steps to help honor those who served.

Expected Military Funeral Etiquette

While any funeral is a reverent affair, military funerals seem a bit more formal. Therefore, the family in mourning, and other family members and friends in attendance expect certain etiquette.

Military Personnel

If you are a member of the Armed Forces, you will be expected to behave in a manner becoming a soldier or sailor. Besides wearing your dress uniform, you should salute when it is appropriate (except if you are a pallbearer):

-          When the hearse passes in front of you

-          At any time while the casket is being moved

-          During the gun salute

-          While Taps is being played

-          If present when the casket is being lowered into the ground

If you are in civilian dress, you should remove your hat and place it over your heart in lieu of saluting. Use your right hand if you aren't wearing a hat. Remain standing for the entire service except when the chaplain or other religious figure is reading the committal service if seating is available.

Family Members and Friends

Everyone in attendance at a military funeral should be dressed respectfully. Everyone should be comfortable but should also be dressed appropriately.

Allow immediate family members to sit in the chairs available at the cemetery. The next of kin should be in front, as he or she will be the recipient of the folded American flag given as part of the service. Family members and friends who are seated at the gravesite should remain seated throughout the ceremony.

Those attending the service should follow the lead of the chaplain or Honor Guard Detail. Cell phones should be turned off or at least silenced.

WHEN IN DOUBT

When in doubt, identify who the funeral director is before the services begin.  He or she has studied this topic as part of our training and your cues can be taken from his or her actions.

SOURCE: http://www.funeralresources.com/resources/military-funeral-etiquette/

I hope this helps as I hope all of my blogs provide some assistance.